Looking for a Virgin Bride Isn’t Morally Wrong When You’re a Virgin Yourself

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The myth of purity and virginal obsession are not new concepts. There are numerous questions pondering over virginity. Because we Nepalis are raised with such ideas or beliefs, a strong answer to this question would be a big fat “no.”

Nepali men who are seeking a virgin wife should not be shunned or chastised in any way. It’s also not appropriate to slander their ideas as outdated or to criticize them for being orthodox and non-modern.

Girl’s virginity doesn’t define their purity

Everyone has the right to expect their desired bride/groom to be a virgin. No one has the authority to judge someone based on their expectations. Bringing up issues such as “However, this is Nepal. A girl who loses their virginity is impure, and to maintain their purity they must be a virgin before marriage,” does not justify anything.

Also, it is simply wrong to blame non-virgins for losing their virginity; nevertheless, it is not incorrect to seek a virgin bride because everyone is entitled to their own set of ideals.

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Not a moral issue, but rather a biological one

It isn’t morally wrong or stigmatized, but it does have biological implications. Many Nepalis are still unaware that sex has a big impact on personality, physical health, and mental health. A relationship between a sexually more frequent Nepali girl and a sexually less frequent Nepali guy appears to be harmful to both parties. There are, of course, additional complexities.

Taking a broad view of the issue, every Nepali guy has the right to pick how his future bride should be. They are entitled to one if they have saved their virginity for their future wife. Also, those guys have the right to make a decision and stick to it. Nepali guys seeking a virgin wife do not, however, have the right to criticize or be disrespectful to her because of her virginity.

If the virgin girl is ready to marry and both love each other then there seems no problem in seeking a virgin bride. Though it becomes questionable when one party is not a virgin and seeks a virgin partner.

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Try to know about her instead of her virginity

If sexual compatibility is so important to you, you’re setting yourself up for a potentially unpleasant relationship. Instead of looking for a marriage based on a girl’s virginity, attempt to learn about her moral beliefs. Learn about her personality, likes and dislikes, future ambitions, and, most importantly, whether or not she loves you.

Whether you’re a virgin or not, expecting her to be a virgin is a poor decision. Expecting her not to sleep with anybody else after the two of you start dating, on the other hand, is quite reasonable.

Finally, there is nothing wrong with looking for a virgin wife. If you find a virgin partner with whom you get along, that’s great; if you don’t, that’s fine too.

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Anjali Magar

I am but a wandering frustrated youth that you could have run into just about anywhere.

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